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Why Being Sick Reminds Me of Vampires

I’m cold and then I’m hot. There’s pressure building up in my head like a shaken soda bottle before twisting off the cap. My throat is scratchy and sore. My body is having a temper tantrum, demanding my attention, but I don’t like being sick. There’s a language around being sick that subtly feels like … Continue reading

Does Your Emotional Baggage Fill a Suitcase?

I’ve spent the weekend unpacking and getting settled in my new home in Rhinebeck. For the past two weeks I’ve been living out of a couple suitcases, first at a friend’s condo, then my mom’s and finally sleeping on an air mattress in an empty cottage waiting for the arrival of my things. The first … Continue reading

The Shallow End of the Pool

There’s a certain thing that happens in relationships. Most people don’t seek out it out, but once you’ve fallen into this particular situation with someone, it’s hard to undo. Most people might not even admit to themselves that there’s anything wrong with behaving this way. It goes like this. I’m single. He’s single. I have needs. … Continue reading

Who Should I Compare You To?

Sizing up the competition is a well-known concept used to determine your opponent’s strengths and weaknesses so you can win. It’s a never-ending cycle of getting the upper hand. If someone’s on top, somebody else is on the bottom and everything revolves around making sure you’re on top. It’s a principle based on a belief … Continue reading

Home Is Where the Hope Is

“Hope is the shape of love not yet experienced, the DNA-deep knowledge of what we’re meant to experience.” —Martha Beck I just got back from a trip home where I spent time at a barbecue with my cousin’s family, my brother and sister-in-law, my niece and a few little children running around, swimming, playing musical … Continue reading

The War Within

I harbor an inside enemy Full-range emotional artillery The self-made war I wage Between the shadow and the sage. She knows what hurts the most, My unwelcome host, Kicks me when I’m down. She knows no bounds. She’s staked her claim and freely roams She calls herself my home. I know her insidious M.O. well, … Continue reading

The Thing About Fear Is…

Day 11: #Trust30 Project These are the voices which we hear in solitude, but they grow faint and inaudible as we enter into the world. Society everywhere is in conspiracy against the manhood of every one of its members. – Ralph Waldo Emerson I have made giant leaps in my life, I have taken huge risks … Continue reading

Five Years

Day 7: #Trust30 Project There will be an agreement in whatever variety of actions, so they be each honest and natural in their hour. – Ralph Waldo Emerson Five years ago this summer, I started an entirely new chapter of my life when I accepted a job at Oprah.com. I left my job of seven … Continue reading