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Why Being Sick Reminds Me of Vampires
I’m cold and then I’m hot. There’s pressure building up in my head like a shaken soda bottle before twisting off the cap. My throat is scratchy and sore. My body is having a temper tantrum, demanding my attention, but I don’t like being sick. There’s a language around being sick that subtly feels like…
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Does Your Emotional Baggage Fill a Suitcase?
I’ve spent the weekend unpacking and getting settled in my new home in Rhinebeck. For the past two weeks I’ve been living out of a couple suitcases, first at a friend’s condo, then my mom’s and finally sleeping on an air mattress in an empty cottage waiting for the arrival of my things. The first…
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The Things You Really Want to Say to Your Ex But You Don’t
There are two types of exes. The one who took you to the drive-in to see a scary movie when you said you would see anything but a scary movie. The one you really didn’t think you wanted to sleep with, but you did because she remembered your birthday, took you to your favorite Mexican…
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The Shallow End of the Pool
There’s a certain thing that happens in relationships. Most people don’t seek out it out, but once you’ve fallen into this particular situation with someone, it’s hard to undo. Most people might not even admit to themselves that there’s anything wrong with behaving this way. It goes like this. I’m single. He’s single. I have needs.…
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Who Should I Compare You To?
Sizing up the competition is a well-known concept used to determine your opponent’s strengths and weaknesses so you can win. It’s a never-ending cycle of getting the upper hand. If someone’s on top, somebody else is on the bottom and everything revolves around making sure you’re on top. It’s a principle based on a belief…
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Home Is Where the Hope Is
“Hope is the shape of love not yet experienced, the DNA-deep knowledge of what we’re meant to experience.” —Martha Beck I just got back from a trip home where I spent time at a barbecue with my cousin’s family, my brother and sister-in-law, my niece and a few little children running around, swimming, playing musical…
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Where Is This Relationship Going? The New Direction of Love
Where is this relationship headed anyway? Whether you’ve been dating for six months or married for sixteen years, this is a question many people frequently ask themselves. Everyone wants to know the end game, the bottom line, the final score, as if knowing the answer would save you from a broken heart, a bruised ego, an…
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The Death of Self-Consciousness
The mirror has not been kind to me Reflecting back what I don’t want to see. Where I am trapped when I feel free, Locked inside the cage, when I see the key. I leave my body. I go away. Sometimes for an hour, perhaps a day. Where nothingness is everything. Where my heart can’t talk, but…
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Can We Talk About This Later? Right Now Is Not Going to Work for Me
I’m the kind of person who speaks her mind even when other people don’t like it. This can either be an endearing trait or a dangerous one. Don’t get me wrong, I know when I should hold my tongue, but sometimes I choose not to despite the consequences. In the past, I’ve justified this behavior…
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